No More Hitting and Scratching

The past month has been so crazy, that I haven’t noticed the changes with Dao. Last night I realized that he hasn’t hit or scratched people anymore. Even his teachers aren’t reporting about them. Whenever I asked them how was his day and the most responses were positive.

Maybe Dao is getting past that state or he is now able to communicate much better than before. He still expresses his anger by throwing tantrums or toys, which is still not acceptable but better. Nevertheless I am still very happy that he uses his words more than his hands.

The improvement I suspect is from one of his new teachers. She holds a degree in psychology and she has been working quite patiently with him. I still recall the first few weeks of school, his teacher asked me to cut his fingernails because he scratched her. He would take it out on her whenever his friends didn’t do what he wanted. He even called her “You’re the baby,” but she was able to turned it around by playing with him.

Most of the time I would ignore him, but one time I got annoyed. I told him, “Since I am a baby, can you take this key and drive me home? I am a baby so I can’t drive.” He responded, “I can’t drive. You can.” I went on, “But you said I am a baby.” Then he said, “No, you’re not a baby. Please drive us home.”

At this age, he’s starting to reason so I am very glad about it. I can say things to him and expect that he understands. Maybe he understood before too, but he just played dumb. I am very glad to see the turn around.

Misrepresented

New York Times:

Virtually every time Mr. Romney spoke, he misrepresented the platform on which he and Paul Ryan are actually running. The most prominent example, taking up the first half-hour of the debate, was on taxes. Mr. Romney claimed, against considerable evidence, that he had no intention of cutting taxes on the rich or enacting a tax cut that would increase the deficit.

See also: At Last Night’s Debate: Romney Told 27 Myths In 38 Minutes

First Presidential Debate

Obama was, as my son would say, “running out of puff.” Romney grilled him on the $90-billion green energy again and again, but he didn’t response, which made it sounded as if he was indeed fucked up. Was Obama too nice to bring up Romney’s tax, his association with Bain Capital on shipping jobs to China and his comment on the 47%? It was not a good night for Obama.

As for Romney, I thought I was watching De Niro playing politician. Unfortunately his emotion for the middle class was not as authentic as his disdain for the 47%. I reviewed last night debate as well as the 47% clip, I couldn’t believe the contrast between the two Romneys. On one clip, he cares for the middle class. On another clip, he doesn’t give a fuck about them. He backed away from his tax plan. He proposed cutting 20% of all marginal tax rates, which would cut $5 trillion in tax revenue. He suggested that he would cut fundings on programs like PBS to reduce reduce $1 trillion deficit.

Romney won the debate big time even with very little sincerity and substance.

Full Circle

Dao: Daddy, can we go to Bac Tram’s house?
Dad: No honey, I have class today.
Dao: No you don’t have class. It’s getting dark.
Dad: Yes, but I still have to go.
Then Dao saw pumpkin sale for Halloween.
Dao: Daddy, can we buy some pumpkins?
Dad: No honey, I am broke.
Dao: No, you’re not broke. You are fixed?
Dad: I am fixed?
Dao: Yes, I fixed you.
Dad: You fixed me?
Dao: Yes, I fixed you with a hammer.
Dad: You are so funny.
Dao: I am not funny. I am sad.
Dad: Why are you sad?
Dao: Because I am not happy.
Dad: Why are you not happy?
Dao: Because I want to go to Bac Tram’s house.
Dad: Ok, we’re going to Bac Tram’s house.
Dao: Now I am happy!
I just got punked by my own kid.

Poor Romney

Thomas Friedman on Romney’s Foreign Policy:

Mitt Romney, given his international business background, should understand this, but he acts instead as if he learned his foreign policy at the International House of Pancakes, where the menu and architecture rarely changes.

Andy Borowitz on Romney’s weaknesses:

With the first Presidential debate just two days away, G.O.P. nominee Mitt Romney has been working intensively on two skills that have eluded him throughout the campaign: talking and thinking.

The Wholehearted Parenting Manifesto

Brené Brown:

Together we will cry and face fear and grief. I will want to take away your pain, but instead I will sit with you and teach you how to feel it.

Read more Parenting Manifesto.

Modern, Maintainable JavaScript

Modern JavaScript: Design and Develop by Larry Ullman is a comprehensive guide for beginners. Ullman’s accessible writing style and easy-to-follow examples make JavaScript less intimidating for novice designers and developers. This is a perfect book to learn JavaScript fundamentals.

Maintainable JavaScript by Nicholas C. Zakas takes it to another level. Zakas shows you how to write clear, collaborative JavaScript. His suggestions include: keep JavaScript out of CSS and vice versa, keep JavaScript out of HTML and vice versa and don’t modify objects you don’t own. The book is concise, but indispensable.

Hết Bịnh

Mấy ngày nay Cu Đán đã cười tươi lại và phá lại. Khi bịnh thì cứ đòi ẩm cũng mệt. Khi lành thì cứ bò tứ tung rồi cái gì cũng bỏ vào miệng nên canh chừng cũng mệt. Dù sao đi nữa thấy nó khoẻ lại là mừng lắm rồi. Cái thằng Đán này thì khác với anh nó không sợ té gì cả. Leo thang, đứng lên buông tay, chuối đầu xuống giường mà không thèm để ý đến gì hết. Dạo này nó cũng nói khá nhiều. Chữ đầu tiên là “ba”. Hôm nay chơi luôn chữ “ba đi.” Hôm qua đưa nó tấm hình của Obama và Romney cho nó chỉ. Cả ba lần nó điều chỉ vào Romney. Cái flyer đó là do của Republican phát ra. Dỉ nhiên là hình Romney cười tươi còn hình Obama thì trông thận hung dử. Cả Cu Đạo cũng chọn Romney luôn. Điều này chứng minh design quan trọng cở nào.

Còn Cu Đạo thì thôi miệng lưỡi của nó dẻo nhẹo. Có cái gì “special” cho nó thì nó “dạ” tới bến luôn còn nói là “You’re my bestfriend.” Không có thì “I don’t like you” một cái một. Trở mặt còn hơn trở bánh tráng nửa. Nó mà hỏi mình chuyện gì thì mình phải trả lời đến nơi đến chốn. Bằng không thì có cứ hỏi tiếp đến chừng nào mình trả lời nó dừa ý mới thôi. Ngược lại mình hỏi chuyện nó mà nó không muốn nghe hay không muốn trả lời thì nó giả vờ như thằng câm vậy. Đợi mình hét nó mới chịu trả lời.

Hôm nay cộng đồng tổ chức Trung Thu. Đem hai thằng đi chơi vài tiếng cũng vui. Cuối tuần phải tranh thủ dành thời giang để đi chơi với tụi nó. Ráng thêm chừng một năm là hai anh em nó có thể chơi với nhau. Bây giờ thằng Đán đã bắc đầu theo anh nó rồi. Thấy anh nó có gì nó cũng nhào tới giựt. Thằng anh cũng không nhường nên giựt lại. Thế là mình phải can thiệp.

Somebody Has to Do It

Dao: Daddy, I pooped.
Dad: So what?
Dao: Somebody has to wash my butt.
Daddy couldn’t help laughing and had to wash his butt and flush his poops.
Dao: Daddy, you’re my best friend.

Analyzing Real and Virtual Space

I have a horrible sense of direction; therefore, I don’t drive anywhere without my GPS navigation device. Prior to the GPS, I used MapQuest or Google Maps to get around. Even with turn-by-turn directions printed out on a piece of paper, the proximity of the distance always confused me. For instance, when the direction said drives 6.3 miles and makes a right turn on Main Street. Did I miss the turn? Had I gone too far? Why don’t I see the street sign? I either looked for road signs or found a gas station to figure out where I was. It just occurs to me now (as I am writing this essay) that I never used a map to orient myself because I also don’t have a good sense of using the maps. Somehow following a set of instructions always appealed to me over a map. Even with the GPS, I rather listen to the instructions than look at the map.

Because of my horrible sense of direction, I became a much better web designer. If I can’t figure my way around a website my users probably can’t either; therefore, I always try to make the site navigation as clear and simple as possible. In Inventing the Medium’s chapter six on “Spatial Design Strategies,” Janet Murray writes:

Websites also create a sense of place, using consistency of style sheets to unite the page displays, and including the homepage as a landmark to which other pages are all related. When the space is well designed the organization is reinforced through the experience of navigation. Each time I go to a page I get a concrete experience of the relationship of one topic to another. Designers can reinforced the experience of an information space, and make it more memorable, by using clear labels and a navigation pattern that follows a logical information hierarchy. Creating a separate “site map” is poor substitute for creating a navigation menu that provides a clear, logical, and memorable map of the site organization.

While I agree with Ms. Murray that using clear labels and logical navigation patterns would make websites easier to use, I totally disagree with her that creating a sitemap is a poor substitution. In fact, I would argue that a sitemap is a design choice on the part of the creators to make the web site easier to use. A site map can’t replace an intuitive navigation system, but it could enhance the experience. For example, if users want to know everything on a particular web site and they don’t have time to navigation through the menu, the sitemap is a good place for them to see every page on the site. Furthermore, sitemap tells search engines like Google about the pages on the site they might not otherwise discover. Having a sitemap not only enhances the user experience, but also increases search engine optimization.

Design choices such as images, type and space make a web site welcoming. If the images are well designed, chosen and optimized, they can attract visitors and make them want to explore further. If the typefaces are legible and readable, visitors might want to stay and read. If the space is balanced with breathing room, visitors might want to learn more. The homepage is the space that could lure visitors into exploring the site; therefore, the space on the homepage has to be well executed. For example, the homepage of Apple.com uses big open space to promote the company’s latest product.

With social media sites like Facebook and Twitter, the virtual world is perhaps an improvement over reality. Facebook allows users to connect with friends and acquaintances from that past that might not be possible in the real world. If it weren’t for Facebook, I would never discover friends from middle school. As much as Facebook and Twitter would like their users to stay in their network, they can’t force them. The way that they signal users that they are leaving or entering their network is to make them sign in. Once inside the network, users can still leave to other sites by opening up a new window. For instance, I can view a YouTube video in Facebook or open up a new window on YouTube site.

(Fifth essay for Graduate Design Seminar)

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