My Five-Month Joy

Duke turns five months today. It’s unbelievable how fast time has zipped by. Bringing him home from the hospital seems like yesterday and the video of him crying as soon as he breathed air still plays clearly in my mind. Watching him laughing, turning, crawling and growing everyday is a bundle of joy. Every time I hold him in my arms, look at him, smile at him and get a smile back, I feel very fortunate to have him in my life. It’s truly a blessing. I love you, my Cu Dao!

Loving Duke’s Mom

These days I don’t have to stay up in the middle of the night anymore. Duke is sleeping better, but his mom is the reason I can get some sleep. She has been nursing him every two to three hours a night. Every time he cries, all I have to do is get up and move to the other side of bed. It’s time to switch breast.

Although she stays up and feeds him at night, she still gets up and goes to work. At work, she not only has to do her job, but also has to pump milk for him three times a day. Even though her job is more stressful than mine, she manages to pull 110% in production. (I can smell a bonus check coming.) Not sure how she does it, but I am very proud of her. It’s definitely a good thing to marry up.

Craving for Mooncake

While mooncake comes with all kind of flavors including lotus, red bean, durian, chocolate, ice cream, coffee and shark fins, I still prefer the Vietnamese combo style with sausage, roast pork, salted yolk, herbs and spices. After lunch at Present, Duke, Dana and I went to Eden Center to find a mooncake. We wanted to get just one to try out first before getting a whole box. After looking around a couple of places, we decided to buy one at Kim Phung bakery after the owner proudly bragged that he makes the best banh trung thu and even folks from California ordered his. I have to concur. Other than the egg yolk is a bit salty, the cake was delicious. It tasted just like the ones in Viet Nam I had years ago. Dana and I ate the whole piece late Saturday night. Although the price is a bit expensive ($7.35 a pop), I can’t wait to grab a few boxes for family and for me this weekend.

Co La – Dau Cham Hoi

Like the Chinese Twelve Girls Band, Co La is a group made up of seven beautiful Vietnamese ladies who were academically trained in traditional instruments including the bamboo flute, zither, pipa and monochord. On its debut, Dau Cham Hoi, the band brings old instruments as well as modern electronics to Vietnamese popular tunes.

Nguyen Cuong’s “Dan Cam,” highlight of the album, gets a mesmerizing fusion between eastern traditional sounds and western rhythm. The tune kicks off with the northern folksy intro and then proceeded into an upbeat tempo courtesy of Roland TR-808. While the beat is bouncy, the traditional instruments play in unison and the powerful voice never led up. “Ngua O Hue” also stands out. Love the Hue accent and the sawing of the two-stringed dan nhi to make the horse’s neighing effect.

Van Cao’s “Suoi Mo” starts off with the sensational bamboo flute taking listeners into the dreamy state of mind. The sixteen-stringed zither (dan tranh) and the monochord (dan bau) are no less hypnotizing. Trinh Cong Son’s “Hoa Vang May Do” is just achingly beautiful when being revived with traditional instruments.

When being asked about the name Co La “Rare Grass,” a member explains that grass is everywhere, but this is not just the ordinary, wild grass. I wonder if it’s the I-can-roll-it-and-smoke-it type. It’s indeed a different kind.

Present Cuisine

So Duke, Dana and I hooked up with big brother Hai for lunch at Present Cuisine. Here goes another Asian restaurant with a waterfall fountain. Nevertheless, the sound of the trickling water and the garden-like design gives the restaurant a cool, relaxing vibe.

Looking at the extensive menu, I get a kick out of the fancy names even though I wouldn’t know what the heck they were if I didn’t look at the actual Vietnamese items. For instance, “Silken Shawl Imperial Autumn Roll” is “Cha Gio Re” or “Pig at the Seaside Vermicelli” is “Banh Canh Tom Cua Gio Heo” or “Rick Folks Golden Crepes” is “Banh Xeo.” Didn’t know that Banh Xeo is a rich folks dish until you look at the price: $10.95 for one. We make Banh Xeo all the time at home and we ain’t rich.

Brother Hai ordered Banh Xeo and it sounded pretty crispy when he bit it. He cleaned up the entire plate so it must be good. I have to invite brother Hai to my sister-in-law’s house next time. She makes some killer Banh Xeo. I had at least five with hot sake the other day and it was heaven.

I tried Cha Ca La Vong and it was pretty good. The fish had a tangy flavor and the shrimp paste was not so strong that non-Vietnamese could give it a try. Dana was not satisfied with her Pig at the Seaside Vermicelli though. She thought the broth had a weird sour taste to it. She hasn’t ran to the bathroom yet, so it’s ok.

Although the prices are a bit higher than most Vietnamese restaurants around the area (including Eden), I was impressed enough to come back to check out some more dishes.

As for the services, I was a bit disappointed with the accommodation. I didn’t have a problem that they don’t have baby changing station in the bathroom; however, they couldn’t even provide me a private area to change Duke. I had to go out to the car.

Hong Ngoc – Vet Thuong Cuoi Cung & Qua Khu

Following the current trend, Hong Ngoc released two albums at once to target different demographics. Vet Thuong Cuoi Cung, which featured classic tunes, is for the old heads. Qua Khu, which featured come-and-gone pop hits, is for the young fans.

On Vet Thuong Cuoi Cung, Hong Ngoc obviously tries to throw a bone for the old folks. She makes no investment in the productions and she covers each song in her sleep. The beats get drowsy; her voice gets drowsier. She simply puts Trinh Nam Son’s “Di Vang” out of its misery and into an afternoon nap. I hope that Lam Phuong won’t listen to her rendition of “Co Ua.” He might get another stroke.

The good thing about Vet Thuong Cuoi Cung is that the album makes Qua Khu more listenable. Although Hong Ngoc has such an old, smoky and husky voice, the best she could do is singing instant pop songs. On the title track, she means every word she sings: “Nhung than oi long nguoi thay doi / Anh ra di chi gi qua khu cua em / Qua khu ngay xua anh da chap nhan de den ben em.” Any lyrics with the words “anh ra di,” she nailed them. On “An Nan Muon Mang,” she cries like rain on the chorus: “Gio day anh da ra di / Anh quyet ra di / Bo mat em voi bao dam me muon phien / Em khoc nhu mua / Anh van quay di / Vi trai tim anh da qua suc nguoi oi.”

Qua Khu testifies that Hong Ngoc still holds her spot as a star in the pop market. Moving beyond that, however, is out of her reach and Vet Thuong Cuoi Cung is a proof.

Duke’s First Jazz Festival

Last Saturday, Dana and I took Duke to the 19th Annual Rosslyn Jazz Festival. We came to see Holly Cole and she was alright. Duke behaved well when we were there. He sat on my lap listening to the music without saying a word. He was a chick magnet as well. A lady was making faces trying to make him smile, but he just gave her that serious look instead.

The other day, Dana put him on the keyboard. When he hit the keys, the sounds excited him. He started to kick his feet and banged his hands. It looked like a good sign.

Are Good Girls Attracted to Douchebags?

Back in my high-school days, I had a friend who was always broke, always failing in school, yet always had at least an above-average chick by his side. One night a bunch of us played cards at one of my friend’s house. The broke bloke sat out because he had no money on him, but he had a chick to play with. We were curious why she was attracted to him and her answer was, “because I am stupid.” Another guy quickly relied, “we could tell.” I was rolling on the floor laughing. It was a joke, but there was some truth to it.

I had witnessed quite a bit of couples like that. I had seen nice-looking girls who ended up with guys who went in and out of jail, didn’t go to school and sometimes treated their girls with lack of respect. I finally got it when a friend whose heart was broken by a jackass told me that she wouldn’t go out with me because I was too nice. Even though I had no intention of asking her out, I wanted to say, “So you want me to treat you like shit in order for you to go out with me?”

After that, I stopped being nice because nice guys don’t really get anything, except for the bills and the crying when she needed someone to talk to. So the answer is yes. Good girls are attracted to douchebags.

Move On

The hardest part of a breakup isn’t the pain but the ability to move on. If you’re the one got dumped, the faster you move on, the better off for you because no one feels sorry for your ass. The quickest way to move on is to do the Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind style. Yes, you want to get her completely out of your world. So when you and your girl are officially over, go out and get wasted. You drink to celebrate the new beginning, not to ease your sorrow.

The next day you wake up, go through your stuffs and destroy anything that associated with her. Getting rid of letters, pictures and sex tapes not only help you move forward, but also avoid leaving evidence behind. Just imagine your future girlfriend or wife comes upon those things, especially the latter. That’s not going to be a pretty scene.

Once the memories are trashed, go out and find yourself a replacement. The challenge part is that you have to score someone better than your ex. That’s right! Aim high because the sky’s the limit when you’re single. Don’t worry if you get rejected. Just think of them as job interviews. In my days, I got so many rejections that they didn’t seem to bother me anymore. Sure, it hurts your self-esteem and confidence, but it is much less painful than holding on to the past. Beside, you’re not likely going to run into them again later on anyway.

Circle Bistro

The first time I went to Circle Bistro was for my interview at GW School of Business. Both my boss and I had Idaho trout. Although the fish was mildly marinated, the flavor came through. It has a light-salted taste that complemented the sweetness of the trout. The place had a cozy feel, which was perfect for a bit of relaxing before heading up for the next round of interviews.

The second time I went with a bunch of colleagues and almost all of them ordered the trout. I went for the grilled flat iron steak. Although the steak was a bit salty, it was juicy and tender. The red wine sauce added a nice European flavor to the red meat.

The third time I took my wife out for lunch when she visited me at work. She had the trout and I had the Pekin duck leg confit and we shared the steamed Maine “Blue Johnny” mussels. The duck was a bit done. It would had been a bit juicer if the meat was a bit raw. I had this dish once at Busy Bee in Poughkeepsie and the chef recommended it raw. The duck turned out delicious.

What makes Circle Bistro stands out is that it only serves a few selections, yet everything on the menu is consistence. You can just order anything on the menu and expect it to be decent.

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