Andrea Cheng writes “Why So Many Asian-American Women Are Bleaching Their Hair Blond” in The New York Times:
While it’s easy to write this off as a beauty trend, this growing community points to stirrings of change on a much larger scale, like the shaping of a new Asian-American identity.
I still prefer black natural hair.
After the kids went to bed last night, I logged onto Netflix to watch David Letterman interviewed Jay Z. The last conversation, in which the two men opened up about their infidelity, struck a chord with me—not because they cheated on their wives, but because they did not give up on their marriage.
I can proudly say that I have not cheated on my wife and never will as long as we stay together. I also will not give up on our marriage no matter how difficult the circumstance will be. Living with someone for ten years is a long time. Of course, we have conflicts and challenges, but I will always love her. Loving another person is hard, especially when you don’t feel the reciprocation. I don’t blame her.
Ten years in our relationship seem to wear her down. Seeing her miserable and taciturn made me wonder why she still stuck with me all these years. The obvious reason has to be the kids. Without the boys, I don’t know if she would still be here with me.
Next month will mark our 10th anniversary. It is one of my proudest and greatest accomplishments in life. I could not have asked for a better partner. She is the love of my life. If it is up to me, I will be with her for the rest of my life; however, I cannot make that commitment by myself. I don’t know if things will ever change; therefore, I am grateful for every single day that she is still with me. I am not hoping for the next 10, 20, or 30 years together. I just want to wake up the next day knowing I still have a wonderful family. As long as we stayed committed, I will never give up.
Karin Jones writes about sleeping with married men in The New York Times:
Physical intimacy with other human beings is essential to our health and well-being. So how do we deny such a need to the one we care about most? If our primary relationship nourishes and stabilizes us but lacks intimacy, we shouldn’t have to destroy our marriage to get that intimacy somewhere else. Should we?
Good question.
Many of us are busy at work, but even at home, there is a lot of work to do. Meal preparation, cleaning, yard work, home maintenance and child care consume considerable time for the typical American.
Much of it isn’t fun, contributing to friction in relationships and taking time away from more pleasant activities that increase happiness. Instead of bickering over who will do the vacuuming, would family life be better if we just outsourced the job?
One survey found that 25 percent of people who were divorced named “disagreements about housework” as the top reason for getting a divorce.
We argue over chores, but they won’t break us up. It’s something else and let’s not get into that. As for chores, I don’t mind paying for them. I just feel bad that other people have to do the shit that I don’t want to do myself.
Cecil Taylor died on Thursday, at the age of eighty-nine. Of all the jazz musicians who wrought definitive, revolutionary changes in music in the late nineteen-fifties and early nineteen-sixties, Taylor’s advances went further than anyone else’s to expand the very notion of musical form. His ideas built on the emotional and intellectual framework of modern jazz in order to extend them into seemingly new dimensions—ones that have remained utterly unassimilable by the mainstream and are still in the vanguard, rushing headlong into the future.
Virginia is the clearest example of a state that has moved to the left politically. After decades as a Republican stronghold, it has voted Democratic in every top-tier statewide race — president, senator, governor — since 2010.
But as well-known as Virginia’s transformation may be, one major cause of it hasn’t received much attention: Asian-American voters. Their numbers have boomed in recent years. Their voter turnout has also risen. And the radicalization of the Republican Party, especially on cultural and racial issues, has sent Asian-Americans voters fleeing to the Democrats.
More than half of Americans take vitamin supplements, including 68 percent of those age 65 and older, according to a 2013 Gallup poll. Among older adults, 29 percent take four or more supplements of any kind, according to a Journal of Nutrition study published in 2017.
Often, preliminary studies fuel irrational exuberance about a promising dietary supplement, leading millions of people to buy in to the trend. Many never stop. They continue even though more rigorous studies — which can take many years to complete — almost never find that vitamins prevent disease, and in some cases cause harm.
Emily F. Popek provides some tips for parents to deal with their children’s temper tantrums and meltdowns:
Charlie Owen has a message for web developers:
If we want to make the web better for people then the most important thing that we can do is to learn the basics. Not of technology, but of our fellow humans.
Because, as we’ve show earlier, empathy is the most important skill that a developer can have.
In a three-part video series, Brian Haferkamp walks through the process of building a static blog using Mavo.io. Part three is particularly helpful to see how Mavo.io works. I need to learn this new tool to build websites that will allow clients to update their own content with ease.