Replacing Bathroom Exhaust Fan

I am embarrassed to say that I have put off replacing our bathroom exhaust fan for almost 10 years. The previous one made loud screeching noise, but I was not confident to do it. In the past few days, it bothered me enough to look up YouTube and tried to replace it. To my amazement, replacing the fan motor took 10 minutes. All I had to do was unplugged and popped out the out motor and put the new one in. I am beating myself up for being such a sucker.

Nutone Fan Motor Assembly cost $15.

How I Spend Money

Nowadays the cost of maintaining your cars and house are ridiculously high. Fixing your car according to the technician’s recommendations can easily cost thousands of dollars. We recently had plumbing and electrical inspections, as part of the annual service plan, and the recommendations were about 10 grants. They either think we’re millionaire or we just have money raining from the sky.

Of course, we did not follow any of its recommendation. If the pipe bursts, we know where to shut off the water. If a toilet licks, we can throw in a new toilet. If a light switch goes bad, we can replace it. I am not oppose to hire a professional to do some of the work, but changing a toilet costs almost $800. How fucking ridiculous is it? Well, if I have Jay Z money, I wouldn’t care, but I only make enough to raise my family.

My wife said I am being stingy about those things, yet I am willing spend $50 to $100 every time I take my kids out to eat. First of all, $50 to $100 is nothing compared to thousands. Second of all, I do not feed my kids fast food. We go for Japanese, Korean, and Vietnamese. Third of all, those are times well-spent with the kids. Sure, we go out a couple times a week, but it is all good. My mom used to raise me that way. When it came to food, she never not willing to spend.

Vote Blue

Voting used to be harder. I had to do my research to find out which candidates to vote for. I had to choose Republicans or Democrats whose policies matched mines. For example, I am conservative on taxation and liberal on abortion.

Nowadays voting is much easier because Republicans only care about their own party. Most of them bowed down to Trump even though he mocked them, called them names, and offended their love ones. These spineless leaders don’t care about the people. They just care about their own political career. They have sold their own soul and dignity. They betrayed their country and stayed loyal to Trump even if they hate his ass. I have never seen a bunch of cowards with loud mouths but soft as a cluster of grapes.

On November 6, I’ll just vote straight Democrats. Even though I disagree with some of their policies, they still have some self-respect. It is such a damn shame that one of the major political parties is captive and gutless.

Thank You, Mr. Bol

Katharine Q. Seelye writes in the New York Times:

Todd Bol was simply paying homage to his mother, a schoolteacher and lover of books. He built a doll-sized schoolhouse, filled it with his mother’s books and put it out for his neighbors in Hudson, Wis., as a book exchange.

Today, just nine years later, more than 75,000 such “Little Free Libraries” dot the globe, from San Diego to Minneapolis, and from Australia to Siberia.

I have seen several of these libraries around our neighborhood.

Tội nghiệp Đán

Bị thằng anh chơi gác. Bị thằng em bắt nạt. Bị mẹ rầy. Bị ba la. Mỗi lần bảo nó tập đọc thì nó hét lên. Tôi không ép buộc nó đọc nhưng không đọc cuối tuần không được iPad. Đến bây giờ nó vẫn chưa đọc được khá. Tôi muốn buông xuôi để tự nó học nhưng không nỡ. Thấy nó bị khó khăn tôi đau xót lắm. Thôi cũng kiên nhẫn giúp đỡ cho nó. Từ từ cũng được.

Tôi không rầy la nó nữa. Và bênh vực nó nhiều hơn nhất là khi nó bị thằng Đạo và thằng Xuân ăn hiếm. Thằng Đán tính nết tốt. Nhưng cũng lì lợm lắm nên thường bị ba mẹ la. Nhẹ nhàng bảo nó đừng làm một việc gì đó như bỏ ngón tay vào miệng, nó càng làm thêm chứ không chịu lấy ra. Hai tuần trước bị nó đau bụng cả tuần vì bị viêm dạ dày ruột. Thế mà nó vẫn tiếp tục làm.

Không biết mai mốt nó sẽ ra sao nhưng nó cũng giống tôi. Chỉ làm những gì nó thích. Khi đam mê thứ gì thì bỏ hết đầu óc vào đó như bị nghiện. Sau này nó đam mê những thứ không nên đam mê chắc chết. Hy vọng bốn anh em tụi nó không lầm đường lỡ bước là tôi an tâm rồi. Không cầu mong bác sĩ kỹ sư gì cả. Dĩ nhiên được thành công thì mừng. Ít nhất cũng phải hơn cha nó.

Self Doubt

I am a terrible human being at times. I regret the way I treat my love ones as well as the people around me. I am trying to be a better person and to set a good example for my kids. I don’t always look at things with a clear head. I have my flaws and my vulnerabilities. I still have trouble controlling my emotion.

I am not anti-social. I just don’t want to get to close to people, which will end up hurting me or hurting them. I try to calm myself, but the more dramas build up the more distress I get. I am learning to let go of the past because I can’t change it. I need to change for the present and the future.

I don’t want to overthink anymore. I am trying not to hold grudges. I just need to move forward. I just need to get myself together. I need to breath and just to live. Fuck you, emotion. I can’t let you ruin my life. I am better than this.

No one wants to admit that he is a horrible person because recognizing it is hard. I wish I don’t, but I do. At times I just feel like I just want to shut out everything and crawl into my own rock. I can’t. I still have a lot of responsibilities. I have kids who are still depending on me.

If I did you wrong, I apologize. I have changed and I am always changing. If you think I don’t like you please talk to me. I am sure that’s not the case. I do care. I am a human. I have a heart. I want to be kind.

Getting all of these off my chest, I am feeling better now. Thank you and have a great weekend.

My Beautiful Nephew

The other night I stumbled across some of my nephew’s photos and video on Instagram. My fifteen-year-old nephew has grown up so fast that I could barely recognize him. He has gorgeous makeup and a style of his own. He has a talent for design and fashion. I am glad that he can use both to express himself.

When he first came up, I gave him my unconditional support. My mom and his mom are still giving me grief about it. Every time we talk, they still blame me for encouraging to “getting worse.” I understand their traditional perspective and I know that they love him with all their hearts, but I have no regret of my support. I have to explain to them again and again that he is not going to change; therefore, we must embrace him and be there for him.

My deepest concern is bullying. I was a target just being an Asian kid. I can’t even imagine what he has to go through being a gay/drag Asian kid. He has to fight a much tougher battle than I had; therefore, I understand the challenges he has to face. I hope that he will stay strong and do not let the bullies and the trash-talks get to him. He can always reach out to me. I am there for him anytime.

I used to be weak and ashamed of who I was and I was afraid of not fitting in. I am glad that my nephew can truly be himself. He is beautiful and he knows it.

Nguyễn Ngọc Tư: Gáy người thì lạnh

Tập tản văn này của chị Tư ngắn và dễ đọc so với những bài nặng ký và rườm rà trong những tập sách khác. Những bài ký ức viết về đồng quê nhẹ nhàng và tình cảm. Tuy chưa bao giờ đến Cà Mau nhưng tôi thèm được thưởng thức tô bún nước lèo chị Tư diễn tả. Tôi thích bài viết về nhạc Trịnh Công Sơn và cải lương. Những người xa xứ như tôi, đọc chữ Việt và những câu chuyện quê hương để nhắc nhở mình còn có một nơi tuy xa mà gần.

Toyota Sienna 2011: Check Engine Light

Just spent a ton of money. Here’s the breakdown:

  • Diagnosed: $105
  • Replaced thermostat: $255 (labor: $233, part: $22)
  • Performed coolant flush: $110 (labor: $73, part: $37)
  • Replaced alternator: $700 (labor: $475, part: $225)

Total cost: $1,225

This is my second time at C&G Specialty Auto Repair and Auto Body. Its price is fairly high. I don’t think I will go back to it.

Joe Rogan: Strange Times

In his latest Netflix special, Rogan puts his own spin on the #MeToo moment. The things he said about women would be sexist in the real world, but he got a pass in his stand-up. It is a dangerous line to cross and only a good comedian would walk down that path. Rogan is brilliant.

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