Anne Curzan: Says Who?

As someone whose English is a second language, I read many books on grammar rules. Most often, the expert advice was to avoid using ain’t, double negative, hopefully, and so on. Only Anne Curzan flips the script and gives us the license to use these words when appropriate. A fascinating read for someone who is fascinated with the English language.

Buồn

Gần ba giờ sáng mà không sao ngủ được. Sống trong đời sống có những chuyện không thể nào ngờ được. Có những lúc những thứ ngỡ như mạnh mẽ nhưng lại mong manh. Những thứ ngỡ nhưng bền bỉ nhưng lại đứt đoạn. Kẻ thù của niềm tin là sự phản bội. Lòng người dễ thay đổi. Cuộc sống quá nhiều biến đổi. Hy vọng rằng mọi biến cố rồi cũng qua.

Viết gì?

Đôi khi tôi tự nghi ngờ không biết viết lên đây để làm gì? Viết ra làm chi? Đã viết hơn 20 năm rồi có đáng không hay chỉ lãng phí phí thời gian? Tôi không còn rõ mục để viết nữa. Nhưng tôi vẫn chưa muốn dừng cuộc chơi.

Gần đây tinh thần đang xuống dốc nên không còn cảm hứng để viết. Có một vài điều trong cuộc sống khiến tôi âu lo và mất đi sự nhẫn nại. Chuyện gì đến sẽ đến hơi đâu mà lo lắng. Giờ có suy nghĩ nhiều cũng không làm được gì. Vì mọi chuyện ngoài sự điều khiển của mình.

Biết rằng như thế nhưng không thể ngồi yên để gió cuốn đi. Càng suy nghĩ càng khiến cho mình giảm đi sự tự tin. Thiếu tự tin không chỉ ngủ không yên mà còn không biết nên viết gì để trải lòng. Nhưng cũng phải thử viết xuống. Dù sao gì viết ra cũng có thể tự an ủi lòng.

Viết ra được nhiêu đây cũng cảm thấy nhẹ nhàng hơn. Có những niềm riêng không nên tiếc lộ trên nhật ký công cộng nhưng cũng đã quen dần rồi.

Summer Workout

After almost two months, my gout had finally gone. I haven’t touched beef. I also cut down alcohol tremendously. I went back on Aleve last Monday and my big toe was no longer feeling the pain by Wednesday. Aleve worked for me, but I didn’t want to abuse it. I only took it when I absolutely needed to.

I went back to the skatepark yesterday with Xuân for the first time in two months. He had been busy swimming and I had to deal with my gout. Our skills were a bit rusty, but we were getting them back. He was a bit hesitant, but we both dropped from an 8-foot ramp.

With my gout and extremely hot weather in the last couple of weeks, I have been doing my own snowboard training in my basement. I have been working on my posi-posi stance and turns. Lexi Bullis’s carving tip is what I am trying to accomplish in the next season.

Eric Blehm: The Darkest White

The Darkest White, by Eric Blenheim, is a biography of Craig Kelly who was a legend in the snowboarding world. In part one of the book, Blenheim takes us back to the birth of snowboarding and how Kelly got into the sport. It’s a fascinating read. Blenheim writes about the punk rock of snowboarding:

Unlike football, baseball, basketball, or, more to the point, skiing, snowboarding had no coaches, no schools, and no rules. There was zero attachment to establishment or the past, and it was something teens could do without some older authoritarian telling them how to do it better. Even the elders in the sport were thirty—tops—and they were figuring it out right alongside the youngsters. The only thing they knew for certain was that it was radical.

Part two, in which Blenheim gives details about Kelly’s mission to become an ACMG guide, is a bit of a drag. Part three is where the actions are. Now that I am into snowboarding, this book is an intriguing read for me.

Proof of Ownership

After 14 days, Toyota Brand Engagement Center has received all my documents. Nethertheless, they still wanted a proof of ownership of the vehicle, which they did not stated in their original correspondence. Fine, I’ll give them the proof.

Dear R,

Sorry I missed your call, but I received your message. I am sending you the registration as proof that I am the owner of the 2018 Toyota Sienna SE. If you have further questions, please call me at XXX-XXX-2187.

Sincerely,
Donny Truong

Let’s see where we are going with this.

Letter to My Sons #43

Dear Vương,

In retrospect, we haven’t spent much one-on-one time together. You’re still a mama boy. I am cool with that. I am sure you will come around when you are ready. You have always done things on your own terms.

When you first learned to ski, you wanted me to hold on to your harness. Then one day you decided to ski on your own. At first you didn’t want to ride your balance bike, but then one day you were rolling down the ramps at the skatepark on your own. Right now you don’t even want to take swimming lessons. You want to figure it out on your own first. That’s cool with me.

Being the youngest in the family, you get all the love; therefore, you don’t need to compete for attention. You just stay low keys. I like that about your personality. I am learning so much from you. Whenever you don’t want to do something or if someone tries to get under your skin, you give them the middle finger and say, “I don’t care.” How badass is that? I can’t even scold you for the middle finger. When you have that much confidence in yourself, no one can mess with you.

Another important lesson you had taught me that I could not forget even though it had been a few years already. You and I were racing down the sidewalk after a heavy rain. As we reached a big puddle of water, I carefully stopped and tried to figure out how to get over it. You just ran through it without thinking. Not only beating me, but you also splashed water all over me. I realized that sometimes in life you just go for it. I spent too much time thinking. As a result, I hadn’t gotten anywhere in life. You will go further than I ever have been.

I enjoy watching you play, hearing you talk, and seeing you grow each day. Time passes by so fast. Before we know it, you will become a young man and I will become an old man. Thank you for still letting me hug you and kiss you.

I love you so much, baby Vương.
Dad!

HostPapa Targeted Thomua.com

HostPapa hit me a few years ago with the resource limit bullshit. I cancelled all of my services with HostPapa. I knew it was just a matter of time before HostPapa went after my clients.

According to their automated performance scans, Thơ mưa had exceeded the allocated resources. Of course it was a scam because Thơ mưa was not even powered by WordPress. It was just a static site built on HTML, CSS, and a bit of PHP. No way it was hogging up the resources.

When my client forwarded to me the HostPapa scheme trying to upsell their service, I advised my client to get out. My client agreed. I transferred the domain and migrated the entire site over to Namecheap. I haven’t used Namecheap in the past. Since my client already has a few domains with Namecheap, I signed up for their hosting as well. Namecheap seams to be a good, reliable company.

HostPapa took 9 days to release the domain. Even though the migration process was time-consuming, I didn’t charge my client a penny. I created Thơ mưa 8 years ago and I had no obligation to take on the migration, but it was the right thing to do. This is one of the reasons I am not doing good at business, but I am OK with that.

If your site is hosted with HostPapa, you need to get out. They are a horrible company.

Letter to My Sons #42

Dear Đán,

I wish I could take away all your blemishes. Then again, no one is perfect. As you have repeatedly pointed out, I have many flaws. I have learned to accept them as part of who I am. I can’t let them affect my life. I hope that you will learn to accept them as well.

Being the second born out of the four brothers is hard. You might feel left out, but I can reassure you that you are always on my mind. I think of you everyday. I have tremendous love for you and I want to be close to you. I am always available for you. You can come to me anytime. You can talk to me about anything. If you want to do something together, we can make that happen.

My only goal as a father is to provide you a happy, fulfilling life. If anything I can do to reach my goal, please let me know. I really wish we can spend some time together. I am down with fishing, shooting some hoops, or passing some ping pongs. Of course, we can snowboard together as well.

You have an incredible athletic ability. You picked up ice skating, rollerblading, and snowboarding with ease. I struggled to learn snowboarding and wished I had your skills. Through determination, I can ride the board now. I lacked the skills; therefore, I had to work hard. You had the skills, but your heart wasn’t in it. Talent without passion and hard work can only take you so far. Then again, we can just play sports for fun and to stay active.

As you are growing, I hope you will learn to balance your life and manage your time. Step away from your screen, reconnect with nature, and spend time with your loved ones, including your dad.

I love you, my boy!
Dad

Replacing the Bathroom Fan Switch

After replacing the bathroom fan for just three months, it stopped working again. The fan was fine, but the switch was dead. So the previous switch was made by Eaton only lasted three months. I hope it was the switch issue and not the electrical issue. Does any electrician or electrical engineer know why the switch had such a short lifespan? Could the cost ($0.85) be the factor? Switches seem to last for a very long time. Hit me know if you know the answer.