Ms. Pat: Y’all Wanna Hear Something Crazy?

Ms. Pat has a wicked sense of humor. In her Netflix Special, she shares her personal matters including being pregnant at thirteen, her crippled uncle, and her gay daughter. If truths were told, she had been through a lot in her life. Comedy is her way out of the darkness. She gives us an invaluable advise: “Learn how to take the darkest shit in your life and turn that shit into laughter. ‘Cause when you can laugh at it, that means you got control of it.” Watch her show with an open mind and you’ll enjoy it like I did.

Mandates

Last Friday, I had a conversation with another Scout father during our Vietnamese New Year party. He and his wife are dentists with their offices. They are a successful couple in their late 30s. I don’t think he is older than me. He was either born in the U.S. or migrating here at an early age.

Our conversation stemmed from the email exchanges we had on masking, vaccinations, and politics. From his scientific knowledge and personal perspective, he does not support vaccination mandates. I agreed with him. It’s an individual decision. There’s no shame in not getting vaccination. If you are unvaccinated and you contracted Covid, you should accept the fact that you put yourself at risk and you could take up an ICU unit, which could be used for other critical conditions. Your body, your choice. If you choose not to get vaccinated (the majority of Republicans) and you are against abortion (also the majority of Republicans) then you are a hypocrite. You can do whatever to your body, but you don’t give women that choice.

As far as masking, we didn’t dwell much into this issue because it had been debated to death in our email exchanges. What I found intriguing is that the young dentist is more conservative than liberal. He doesn’t support universal healthcare because he believes that would lower the quality of his service as well as the whole health industry. He explained that suddenly people show up to his office for the first time in 20 years with all kinds of issues. To me that’s a good thing. At least they showed up to check up rather than waiting until they got serious issues. That would cost even more. I know someone who had a heart problem, but didn’t get checked up. When he almost died, he showed up at the hospital and stayed for two weeks. His bill was $80,000, but he didn’t have a job and didn’t have any money. We, the taxpayers, had to cover his expenses.

Since he is a dentist, I wanted to get some inside perspective from a medical profession. I asked him if Medicare paid less than insurance. He said yes, but the bigger issue is that it takes time and effort to get reimbursement from the government. He takes his time with his patients to provide quality care. If he has to take on more Medicare patients, his quality would suffer. If he doesn’t then his business would suffer.

I totally understand his situation and it also comes down to money. I have tremendous respect for the medical professionals, which include dentists, doctors, and nurses. They have to have compassion and empathy in order to be in the industry of helping people. They make decent money as well but that shouldn’t be their priority. But then the more I see medical professionals turning into businesses, the more I lose my faith in them.

As I said before, I no longer identify myself as a Democrat. The Republicans are all about looking out for themselves and I am not down with that. The Democrats have more social inclusions. They are morally right, but they simply can’t get things done. They also need to get more young people like the dentist on their side. Then again, we’re still living in a white man’s world.

Vĩnh biệt Cậu Sáu

Sau một năm, người em trai duy nhất của mẹ cũng từ giã cõi tạm này. Cậu Sáu, ông Lý Văn Anh, từ trần ngày 8, tháng 2, năm 2022, hưởng thọ 78 tuổi.

Tháng 12 vừa rồi tôi đến nhà thăm cậu. Vì cậu lãng tai nên khó có thể trò chuyện với nhau. Tuy nhiên, cậu vẫn thân mật mời tôi ăn chè và xôi mợ nấu ăn mừng đầy tháng cháu nội gái thứ nhì của cậu mợ. Chúng tôi ngồi ăn và xem lại những album hình ảnh gia đình cậu vẫn còn giữ. Tôi chụp lại một mớ để đưa vào quyển sách dì Chín viết về cuộc đời của ông bà ngoại và cuộc sống của mấy dì cậu. Không ngờ đó cũng là lần cuối cùng tôi gặp lại cậu.

Sự ra đi của cậu khiến tôi không khỏi ngậm ngùi. Tôi rất yêu quý và kính trọng cậu. Cậu là một người chồng thương yêu vợ và một người cha dành hết tình cảm cho đứa con trai duy nhất của mình. Cậu sống đơn giản và không phung phí, tuy cuộc sống của cậu không thiếu thốn. Ở tuổi già, cậu sống thầm lặng. Có lần tôi hỏi sao cậu không đặt máy trợ thính để dễ dàng trò chuyện với mọi người. Cậu mỉm cười và trả lời rằng để cho lỗ tai cậu nó nghỉ ngơi. Hơn nữa cậu không muốn nghe thêm chuyện đời. Tôi thấy lý luận của cậu hay. Tuy không muốn mình bị mất đi thính lực, nhưng tôi rất muốn bỏ ngoài tai hết chuyện của thiên hạ. Sống như thế mới được thoải mái và không phiền muộn. Với đôi tai không cần nghe chuyện ngoài đời, cậu đã sống những năm tháng an nhàn và thanh thản bên vợ con và gia đình.

Giờ đây cậu đã theo các chị em của mình về miền Cực lạc. Thế là mấy chị em lại được đoàn tụ ở một nơi không còn đau đớn và khổ sở nữa. Xin cầu nguyện cho linh hồn cậu được an nghỉ trong bình yên.

Letter to My Sons #23

Happy sixth birthday my brightest Xuânshine!

I am happy with your development as well as your accomplishment. You are doing well in kindergarten. One of your teacher’s comments was that you routinely retell your personal experiences and stories. Seeing you are thriving makes me feel less guilty. I am so sorry that I have not spent time teaching you reading and practicing math. Your older brother still needs more help from me. I will get to you soon. I promise.

Fortunately, you are a quick learner who pays close attention; therefore, you excel in everything you do. You picked up skiing effortlessly just like how you picked up biking and ice skating. I wish you would continue to learn figure skating, but you seem to fall out of love with it just like your older brothers. You have started piano lessons and you seem to have the chops for it. Keep going, my son. I believe that you can do anything when you put your mind to it.

Your mother and I are very proud of you. As we are celebrating your special day today, we want to thank you for bringing energy and Xuânshine to our family. Being a younger brother, you try to catch up with Đạo and Đán from sports to video games. Being an older brother, you treat Vương with care and tenderness. You are a wonderful grandchild and a son. We all love you dearly.

Love,
Dad

Mucho Moguls

After spending half a day at the Liberty Mountain Resort on Saturday, we went to our friend’s house to celebrate Vietnamese New Year in Maryland. We didn’t go home until midnight and the kids were exhausted. On Sunday, I let them sleep in and I was tired myself. When they woke up around 9:30 am, I asked if anyone wanted to go skiing. Đạo, Đán, and Xuân wanted to come.

We arrived at Liberty around noon and met up with my brother-in-law and his son. To my surprise, it was not too crowded. I took my kids and my nephew to the blue and black slopes. Another surprise was that all the slopes had moguls. I was worried that Xuân and Hân (my nephew) couldn’t make it, but they did just fine on the blue slopes. Đạo, Đán, and I went down the double blacks and met up with Xuân and Hân at the bottom where blacks and blues merged. Even with moguls, I managed to navigate my way down the double blacks with no problem. We were done around 4:30 pm.

We love skiing and we’ll miss it when the season comes to an end; therefore, we try to go as much as we can. The Epic pass and having our own equipment saved us time and money. We’ll definitely do it again next year.

The Double Diamond Blacks

Yesterday I did not plan to go skiing because of the heavy rain and warm weather the day before. The weather, however, dropped the night before and the resort was able to make snow. Đạo wanted to go so we went.

Liberty Resort turned out beautiful. The terrains were good. Because we came early in the morning, the lift lines were short. Đạo, Đán, and I hit the blue and double black slopes. I slipped on a double black once, but my skis didn’t pop off. I lifted up my legs above the ground and let myself slide all the way down. To prevent myself from slipping to the point where I faced the mountain and my skis started to go backward, I positioned my body in front of my downhill ski and put some weight on it as well. That seemed to work.

We did some mogul runs, but I only chose the less bumpy paths. On the green slopes I tried carving, but fell and hit my ski when I leaned. I need to start with one leg first.

We skied from 8:30 am to 12:30 pm. It was not crowded and the slopes were well groomed. As we headed up, the rental line was long. We avoided the crowd and four hours were plenty.

Edward Sorel: Profusely Illustrated

Edward Sorel is a satirical cartoonist and an unapologetic leftist. His illustrations appeared on the covers of major publications such as the Esquire, the Atlantic, and the New Yorker. His memoir is both personal and political. His writing is engaging and his works are exceptional. A must-read for designers. I didn’t even know about Mr. Sorel and to my surprise he is 92 years old. He can still write and draw at his age. I have utter respect and admiration for the man. I enjoyed this book throughout and I am glad that I had picked it up to read it.

Hương Giang: Hoài Cảm

Với giọng hát khàng và nồng nàng của Hương Giang cùng với tiếng đàn dương cầm nhẹ nhàng và sâu lắng, Hoài Cảm đáng lẽ ra phải là một album thính phòng ấm áp. Nhưng không biết lúc thu âm studio có lạnh lắm không mà Hương Giang run giữ quá. Mỗi lần cô nhã chữ cô run đến rợn cả người. Chẳng hạn như bài mở đầu, “Khúc thụy du” (nhạc Anh Bằng, thơ Du Tử Lê), cô hát, “Hãy nói về cuộc đờờờời / Khi tôi không còn nữữữữa.” Phải chi cô đừng sử dụng vibrato thì nghe đỡ nổi da gà. Đáng lẽ ra nhạc phẩm “Chiều tím” (Lam Phương) với cách hoà âm sang trọng là một bài blues đẹp nét nhưng cách run của cô làm người nghe rất khó chịu. Đáng tiếc thật.

Khám định kỳ

Hai hôm trước đi bác sĩ khám định kỳ. Không biết lấy hẹn làm sao mà đúng vào mùng một Tết. Thôi kệ đi luôn. Quả lại tôi cũng không tin dị đoan gì cả. Tôi nghĩ dạo này chơi thể thao đều đặn nên sức khỏe sẽ tốt. Cân giảm được vài pounds. Blood pressure cũng trung bình.

Hôm qua nhận được kết quả thử máu. Cholesterol và glucose đều tăng. Bác sĩ khuyên tập thể dục thêm nữa để giảm cân nhưng không đề cập đến vấn đề ăn uống. Nhưng tôi nghĩ phải ăn uống cẩn thận hơn nhất là đồ ngọt. Bớt uống Gatorade và trà bubble. Bớt ăn đồ ngọt và đồ ăn nhiều dầu mỡ.

Còn được vớt vát là chất uric acid giảm xuống mà không cần phải uống thuốc. Tôi vẫn uống wine đều đặn. Thỉnh thoảng vẫn uống bia và rượu nặng. Không ăn thịt bò thường xuyên. Lâu lâu thèm thì ăn một tô phở bò.

Sức khỏe như thế coi như tạm ổn. Sẽ cố gắng thể thao nhiều hơn và kiềm chế cái miệng lại.

Visualgui 2022 Iteration 2: Warbler

Welcome to the second iteration of this blog. Warbler, a new text face David Jonathan Ross has sent out to the Font of the Month Club yesterday for February, has prompted the change.

I have been a member of the club from the beginning and I appreciated all the display fonts, but a text face is rare to come by. Even though Warbler Text is still a work in progress, especially with Vietnamese diacritics, I can’t wait to use it and this blog is a perfect place to experiment. Stephen Nixon once quipped, “I like how @visualgui handles this: he updates the fonts on his blog frequently … like once a month, I think?” Whenever I get new fonts, I tend to update this blog to put them to use.

Although the body text has changed to Warbler, I still keep Forma DJR for display and small texts. I also changed the colors to make it easier on the eyes for reading. In addition, I moved the main column to the middle and the sidebar to the left. Thanks to CSS Grid, swapping columns is so easy.

Since we are celebrating Vietnamese New Year this week, this little update is fitting with the holiday spirit. Wishing those who celebrate Lunar New Year with plenty of love, health, and wealth. Stay strong like tigers.