Let’s talk about selfishness. Yes, I am selfish as fuck and I know it. While I might be critical of myself, it is crucial to recognize my own flaws. At the very least, I won’t turn into a narcissist.

I am so selfish that I do not eat my kids’ leftovers. I have seen so many parents, particularly Vietnamese parents, load up their kids’ with so much food on their plates that their kids would struggle to finish.The father usually ended up eating his kid’s leftovers. Fuck that, I wouldn’t eat that shit; therefore, I only give them what I think they can eat or a bit less. They can always ask for more.

I am so selfish that I don’t give my kids a hand on everything. Learning to skate, for example, I let them fall so they can learn to balance themselves. After that, it would be a piece of cake for them to pick up. Now their skills have surpassed me. When I taught my second son how to swim, I let him jump from the pool down then try to swim to me. The first time, he struggled to float so I picked him up. By the fourth or fifth jump, he was ready to float all by himself.

I am so selfish that I do not let anyone take advantage of my generosity. If you’re generous with me then I am generous with you. If you treat me with respect then I treat you with respect. I demand fairness. Clear and simple.

At times my selfishness turned into pettiness. At that point, I needed to reevaluate myself. Selfishness has its good and bad. I am just trying to get rid of the bad parts. How do I figure out the difference? Look at the president of the United States. He is an example of the worst type of selfishness. He puts himself first at the time of the pandemic and puts everyone else at risk. If he could admit his selfishness, he could have had the coronavirus under control and he could save lives. Like a selfish person always says, “It is what it is.” Let’s hope this selfish president will be done with his job in one week.