A couple of days ago, Đán was leaning over his chair. I was afraid that he would fell down; therefore, I warned him, “Don’t do that.” He immediately replied, “Daddy, you hate me.” Though I was irritated, I had to explain to him. “No, I love you. That’s why I don’t want you to fall down. If I hate you, I would not say anything. If you fall down and bust your head all I have to do is taking you to the emergency room.”
This morning as I was feeding Xuân breakfast, I complemented him, “You are such a good eater.” Đạo jumped in, “That means you don’t love us.” I was a bit annoyed but replied, “That is false. I love all of you. Don’t jump to the conclusion when you don’t know how I feel.”
Yesterday morning as we were driving the the Andrews Air Show, I said, “We might not make it on time and they won’t let us in.” It happened to us the previous year. They only let people in at a certain time. My lovely wife responded, “If you don’t want to go than stay home.” I was exasperated but simply replied, “Why do you have to say that?” I did not want to make a scene in front of my mother-in-law. My mood was ruined for the entire day.
The kids don’t know any better; therefore, I don’t hold anything against them. My wife, on the other hand, should understand me by now. If I didn’t want to go, I would not have gotten into the car. There is nothing more I want to do on the weekend than spending time with my family. Why would she feel the need to say such thing to get on my nerve?
Maybe I am a bit oversensitive, but I just could not shake off the accusations, especially from your love ones. I have learned not to jump conclusions when I don’t know how someone is feeling. Instead of assuming about others, I simply say how I truly feel.