When we always yield to our children’s wants, we rob them of the opportunity to find solutions by adapting what they already have. Kids who learn from denial realize at an early age that they won’t always have the perfect tool for every job. They might not know something, have something, or be something. But that’s not the end of pursuing goals — it’s the beginning of activating their resourcefulness to find another way.
I try to say no to my boys as much as I can. Sometimes I felt bad when their cousin gets everything, but they don’t. This article has reaffirmed that saying no is good. The don’t have to be spoiled like other kids.